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Writer's pictureDr. Kimberly Smith Dauterive

Who Holds the Key to Your Emotions

“Stop regarding man in whose nostrils is breath, for of what account is he?”

‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭2:22‬ ‭ESV


Do you realize that YOU and YOU ALONE are controlling your happiness, peace and joy?


Now you may be saying to yourself, "How is that possible when people purposely work hard every day to get on every nerve I have?"


Well, the answer is quite simple...Because YOU, and only YOU, possess the key to your emotions!!! So my question to YOU is this... to whom have YOU given your key and why?


All too often, we blame others for “making us” feel sad, mad, frustrated, angry or depressed. But let's think about this for a minute. Are they really responsible for the negativity that WE allow to overtake our emotions just by saying a few simple words? So what if someone calls you out of your name? So what if someone starts a nasty rumor about you? So what if someone says you don’t fit their clique? So what?!?! Why should someone else’s words or thoughts have any effect on you at all? Well, they shouldn’t…so STOP allowing them to.


Consider this for a moment…if someone called you a butterfly or a Flamingo, would you get mad? The answer should be a resounding NO!! And you know why? Because you know how ridiculous that sounds and more importantly YOU KNOW YOU AREN’T EITHER OF THOSE THINGS!!


So using that same thought process, why get mad when someone calls you stupid or ugly or even a “B” when you know you aren’t any of those things? Those are just simple words as well but WE GIVE POWER to those simple words when we allow someone to use them to incite such chaos within us that we willingly hand over the keys to our emotions and let someone using words as their weapon remove us from our own driver’s seat, take the wheel and change our gears from Perfect Peace to Rage, Negativity or Destructive. We give words that much power. Words! And the fact is, once someone realizes how much power words have over you, they can disturb your peace anytime, anywhere. That means a nobody with nothing at all to lose can use words to make you lose everything you have. Doesn't make much sense now does it?


So when YOU allow someone else to make YOU mad, upset or angry, remember they didn’t make you feel that way. You chose to feel that way when you gave your key away. But there is hope!! You can just as easily take your key/power back and choose to be happy.


Throughout our lifetime, we will repetitively find ourselves in situations that threaten our inner peace. When that happens, we have three options to choose from:


The first is to do something to change the situation. Leave, make them leave, choose new friends, or you may even need to cut ties with drama-filled family members…but the ultimate goal is to exchange your current toxic environment for a better one.


The second is to simply accept it. You can choose to remain in an unhealthy environment and accept the conditions as they are. Why anyone would want to do that I don’t know but that’s not my business. That’s your own decision to make and live with but if that’s your choice, own up to it. Don’t play the victim because you’re unhappy with a choice you made.


The third is the one I encourage everyone to absolutely avoid. The third option is to hand the key to your emotions over to someone else. It’s remaining in a place where someone or something is making you feel less than, inferior to and lacking. It’s accepting rocks and pebbles when you deserve rubies and diamonds.


AT ALL COSTS, REFUSE TO RELINQUISH YOUR KEY! Refuse to allow anyone to ever have the power to control how you feel. The Bible verse is clearly asking us all, who is man that we would give him such power over us?


SO MAKE A CHOICE!!


Choose to preserve your peace!!


Choose to believe “you are fearfully and wonderfully made” by God regardless of what anybody else says because who are they anyway!!


CHOOSE YOU!! Because if you don’t, who will?


“Let’s Evolve Together…God-Driven & Obedient”

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Clarissa Kerlegan
Sep 06, 2022

Thanks Doc 💕for REFRESHING MY PERSPECTIVES 💕

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Rori Brooks
Rori Brooks
Aug 16, 2022

So empowering. ❤️

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